Speed dating wasn’t fast enough meeting the Baroness

There was a young man called Ramon
who was tired of being alone.
Imagine his stress
when a man in a dress
blew him kisses and followed him home.

How many of you have encountered a man dressed up like a woman? Aha! Fortunately it’s only happened once in my life ? so far.

A few years ago I attended the first ever speed dating event held in South Africa in Melrose Arch. I read on a website that an SABC3 was going to record the evening’s events. So I jumped at the opportunity to be on tv ? I mean after all who does not want to be on tv? Normally I don’t do skydiving or bungee jumping but doing this was a very big thrill for me.

How speed dating works is as follows: you normally have 10 guys and 10 girls. The girls sit down on tables and the guys rotate after 5 minutes so they are guaranteed to meet all the woman ? as you know this does not always happen in a bar.

The Baroness Coral von ReefenhausenAnyway I moved around on a few dates and low and behold I faced the Baroness. The camera crew swooped in to capture the moment. As I sat down and she/he extended her hand, ?Well, well, well… aren’t you a handsome fellow…? Why thank you was my quick reply. ?Tell me…Ramon…where would we go on a first date..,? was her next question. This is where I had to think really, really fast. ?Oh maybe we’d go on a picnic, so we have lots of time to talk and get to know each other.? Those 5 minutes felt like an eternity with the Baroness.

My next speed dating event was a huge improvement. Popular Johannesburg radio station 94.7 Highveld Stereo ran a special competition for Valentine’s Day 2005, which turned out to be the biggest speed dating event ever. We had over 50 people and you could smell the excitement in the air. Because of the amount of people we were split into two groups, and Fastdate, hosted the function. This lead to use being split up into two groups. Now as I entered the building going upstairs where the event was taking place. I was followed by a gorgeous girl with a big smile. She had a certain energy about her, a girly, bubbly type, which so many women over 30 seem to loose. As we reached the 2nd floor, a table full of small champagne bottles waited for us. I grabbed mine without a straw as usual. This girl, Lauren, took hers and innocently placed the straw in hers. The gas in the champagne reacted and almost like a volcano this thing erupted….”Oops! I did it again”, Was the expression on her face and she giggled her shy hello. We hit it off later on and I left the venue with a kiss and a her cellphone number tucked safely in my back pocket. So in fact I broke the rules, because I didn’t bother completing the speed dating forms, evaluating all the other women.

If you’re keen on trying speed dating start by download my speed dating ebook, The ABC of Speed Dating.

How to invite a woman out you have just met buying Dolce&Gabbana

Recently I was out at the Mall of Rosebank and I was doing some shopping. My approach skills have been slack because in 2007 I was in two long term relationships. So I’ve been going out more often to brush up on my pickup skills. One of my strategies has always been to go to clothing stores and find a sexy girl to help me decide what clothes to purchase.

Dolce&Gabbana light blueSometimes there just isn’t any attractive women or more specifically the women who are working in the retail stores are just plain average. But if you look around you’ll find the niche locations where the hotties be found. So I was in Truworths and headed over to the cosmetic section. You’ll notice in the cosmetic section there can be either female clients or female employees. I noticed a tall, sexy girl who was dangling over the checkout counter and called her over. Another less attractive woman had approached me to help me and I sent her packing and chose the HB.I flirted with her from the get go. And I also touched her, getting her to touch me back as I sampled the new Light Blue Dolce&Gabanna. Asking her the following line, I learned from Ross Jeffries, was the clincher, “Have you ever met a guy in a place like this you thought was just fascinating?” And she responded, yes. What this question does is allows her mind to go back into her memory and begin to think of what meeting a fascinating guy feels like. I then touched her wrist to anchor that feeling to myself. This was a little judo trick to create instant attraction with a woman you’ve just met.

Now just before I left I said to her, “I’m hosting an Anti-Valentine’s day party on 14 Feb and I’d love you to join me…” next I wrote down my name and cellphone number and left it with her. I didn’t even say goodbye and just left. About 15 mins later I was still walking around other parts of Rosebank, Johannesburg, and received a call on my cell. Answer in high spirits it turned out to be this woman, from Truworths, just letting me know this is her number and that I should have an awesome day.

So in summary what I did was I linked the feeling of fascination in her mind to me, and I then proceed to ask her out to join me at a party. We’ve spoken since and she’s keen to meet before the Anti-Valentine’s Day party. The key thing to remember about asking woman out is NOT to drag it out. Forget getting her phone number and calling later. Suggest meeting immediately (going for a drink) or later the same day and leave your cellphone number with her. You cut to the chase when she calls because its undeniable interest. We’re all very, very busy these days so there’s no time to waste and drag out the dating process.

TEDAfrica in Cape Town opens for registration

I learned from Erik Hersman over at WhiteAfrican.com that TEDAfrica is open for registration. This is technically the 2nd TED conference in Africa, although its the 1st to named TEDAfrica, a new annual conference focussed on bringing together the Cheetah generation with global visionaries in one mega conference. I also echo his sentiments that if this is even close to TEDGlobal in Tanzania, in 2007, it’ll be a huge success. And in the words of George Ayittey, these conference will rank as the most important events at the beginning of the 21st century for Africa.

To all the TEDGlobal Fellows I look forward to meet you again in my country, and one of the most beautiful cities in the world, Cape Town.

TED Africa Cape Town 2008

Video Professor offers Protect Yourself Online: Viruses, Scams and Social Networking Tutorial

Leader in self-paced computer training combats Internet security fears with the launch of its newest tutorial, Protect Yourself Online: Viruses, Scams and Social Networking.

VIDEO PROFESSOR-the leader in comprehensive, self-paced computer software tutorials—is offering a three-lesson Protect Yourself Online: Viruses, Scams and Social Networking tutorial to teach people how to protect themselves, their loved ones and their computers from identity thieves, scammers and viruses.

Millions of kids create social networking profiles that make them susceptible to online predators. Dating sites can open the door for deception and cyberstalking. Ten million people buy and sell on eBay every month.

What makes the lesson stand out is the source and motivation behind it: the best-selling book, Net Crimes and Misdemeanors: Outmaneuvering Web Spammers, Stalkers, and Con Artists, by cybercrime expert Jayne A. Hitchcock. “What you know and more Importantly, don’t know about things like shopping online, web sites such as MySpace and Facebook, identity theft and even online dating, will surprise you,” said Hitchcock. “Simply put, you have to be prepared for every conceivable misfortune that could occur to the unsuspecting on the Internet.”

“When I read the book, I was very surprised to see how so many people are so trusting when they use the Internet. They believe that modern technology is keeping them safe. But you first have to understand the technology,” said John W. Scherer, CEO and founder of Video Professor, Inc. “The reality is, there are even more bad people who’ve figured out new and very devious ways to hurt you. That’s why we partnered with Jayne on this lesson. It provides the latest and best tools on how to protect yourself, your family and your finances. It’s designed to help keep you safe.”

The VIDEO PROFESSOR Protect Yourself Online tutorial helps consumers guard themselves against phishing, cyberstalking, online harassment and identity theft. The Protect Yourself Online tutorial teaches users the safety measures to take when making purchases online, the warning signs to look for that indicate you might have become a victim to identity theft or credit card fraud and the top ten online scams. Specifically, VIDEO PROFESSOR’s Protect Yourself Online tutorial provides three hours of in-depth, one-on-one instruction about keeping yourself and your kids safe while participating in social networking sites, online auctions, online banking, online shopping and online dating.

VIDEO PROFESSOR’s Protect Yourself Online tutorial makes it easy for users to learn how to protect themselves when buying and selling online, socializing online or just browsing the Internet. This new VIDEO PROFESSOR tutorial will teach you how to interact online safely and securely and how to portray yourself effectively while guarding yourself from becoming a victim. The Protect Yourself Online tutorial systematically introduces online hazards, such as:

  • Phony photos on online auction sites
  • Phony e-mail from major corporations and e-mail forwards
  • Reverse auction fraud
  • Firewalls, Internet security, passwords and cookies
  • Online impersonation
  • Dangers of blogs, journals and profiles on social networking sites

Identity theft is a particularly important issue for most computer users, and VIDEO PROFESSOR’S Protect Yourself Online tutorial provides detailed instruction about how to avoid becoming a victim. The Protect Yourself Online tutorial describes how to teach your kids to protect themselves and how to use parental controls to keep them out of trouble. VIDEO PROFESSOR’s Protect Yourself Online tutorial also explains computer viruses and how to steer clear of them. After completing the Protect Yourself Online tutorial, users will have all the information needed to protect themselves, their loved ones and their computers from identity thieves, scammers and viruses.

VIDEO PROFESSOR’s Protect Yourself Online tutorial is ideal for anyone wanting to enjoy the Internet safely without worrying about falling victim to criminals. The Protect Yourself Online tutorial is designed to be useful for beginner, intermediate and advanced skill levels. VIDEO PROFESSOR recommends a basic knowledge of using the Internet before starting the Protect Yourself Online tutorial. Once a user has completed all three lessons in the Protect Yourself Online tutorial, he or she will be able to surf the Internet with confidence.

“Like all of our lessons, this tutorial takes you step by step through the learning process,” said Scherer. “You learn at your own pace and schedule. But you learn. And when the subject is as important as protecting you and your family online, that’s key.” To learn more about VIDEO PROFESSOR and its complete line of computer tutorials, or to view a demo of the VIDEO PROFESSOR Protect Yourself Online: Viruses, Scams and Social Networking tutorial, visit VIDEO PROFESSOR and click on the CD Products link.

X-Factor Leona Lewis’ Bleeding Love, a bad move

Leona Lewis Bleeding LoveA song that’s been mulling in my head since I first heard it is Bleeding Love by Leona Lewis. Maybe I’m late to the party but I don’t get very excited about new music these days…However this single and the singer is absolutely stunning. There’s something deeply provocative about it and that’s in fact the clincher. You can buy her album from Kalahari.net or Amazon.com

FJ Shark once wrote about why following the advice from love songs is a bad idea for men. And how the love songs that women sing usually describe a failed relationship (think sinking ship). He says the guys they want to keep around just doesn’t put enough into the relationship and now she’s “bleeding love” because she’s investing so much with little or no return. When you read the lyrics of Bleeding Love you become instantly aware of how she puts herself down and puts this dream guy on a pedestal. So the song in itself is a typical example of misguided belief on how someone else, outside of your control, is supposed to make your life better “in this world of loneliness.” STOP that!

On a side note Leona Lewis is multiracial. Her father is a Guyanese Afro-Caribbean youth worker, and her mother is a social worker of Anglo-Welsh descent. She is also of Italian and Irish descent on her mother’s side. What an interesting mix and this likens her to Mariah Carey, famously multiracial, in more ways than just their music. Now it could just be a coincidence but the video below starts out with a black guy being thrown out by his white/blond girlfriend. He moves onto another white/brunette women, who’s latino boyfriend eventually walks on them. Why the black guy with the two white women I wonder? Yep, it could just be a sign of the times or fabricated subliminal messages of what is acceptable sent to you by the Merchants of Cool.

Anyway enjoy the song for what it is here…

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